Will I ever fight for women’s right? Yes, if I believe that the goal is to facilitate women’s career advancement and provide a good life for us.
But will I ever lose my femininity for it? Not a chance. The closest man-like behaviour you’ll see from me is to order an ‘old fashion’ at a bar…
Randomly reblogging this to let you know that, honestly, I disagree with any feminist who says one needs to shun what is ‘feminine’ or ‘girly’ in order to be a ‘true’ feminist.
Part of what attracted me to feminism in the first place is the whole idea of choice, the notion that everyone should be free to choose for themselves what they want to do in life. Even if it is something as simple as wearing makeup, or not, or shaving, or not.
Guess I just want to say “rock on!” if you want to be a feminist and maintain aspects of femininity that others might insist you shun. I say embrace everything you love about yourself and rock it!
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Because feminist doesn’t always mean “pro-abortion!”
Haha, no honey. Just no.
I find it absolutely adorable when:
+people think that just because they wouldn’t personally get an abortion that it makes them pro-life.
+people think that feminist = abortions all around!!! This round’s on ME!
+people call themselves pro-life feminists because pro-life is anti-choice, plain and simple. And feminism is all about the choices. The pro-life feminist does not exist.
One simply cannot be pro-life AND a feminist.
One can, however, call themselves a feminist if they decide that they personally would never want to get an abortion, but, would never dream of forcing their values down someone else’s throat and revoking that choice from them.
If you’re entitled to make that personal choice then SO IS EVERYONE ELSE.
Once more, with feeling:
Pro-life = anti-choice
Feminst = pro-choice(s)*
*for way more than just abortions, btw.
Saw this in Costco about 5 months ago and it made my heart so sad :(
This brings to mind a conversation that I was having with a friend yesterday over text message in regards to the LEGO Friends sets. It’s also similar to any conversation that I have about gendered products with any individual who thinks that activists and feminists don’t want girls to have the options for pink, feminine, “girly” items.
That’s not it at all. There may be people out there who think that’s preferable, but, I personally think that we need to broaden the options for boys and girls. Let boys and girls have the same toys. Offer a toy in supposedly girly colors, supposedly masculine colors, give them the option to select whatever color they like. Not all boys like science, building, and bright, bold colors. And not all girls like salons, and cooking/housekeeping sets, and soft, pastels. But don’t deprive the boys and girls who DO like such things of the things that they like.
Girls and boys should have access to all of the things pictured on the front of those two books above. There is nothing wrong with a girl who likes pink and princesses or robots and dinosaurs (or, heck, all of the above), just as there is nothing wrong with a boy who likes those things. But, to imply through marketing, product design, store design, and product placement that it is somehow wrong for girls to like anything but pink, princesses, shopping, make-up, and other passive activities is a problem. Just as it is wrong to imply through the same mechanisms that boys absolutely cannot like any of the things that girls like.
I think that the below graphic succinctly makes the case that I try to make in all of my discourse about gendered products and limiting choices for boys and girls (and, by extension, men and women).
And that, folks, is the problem that I have with the LEGO Friends line of toys and any hypergendered toy available on the market. They’re, essentially, pigeon-holing boys and girls.
While I was not afraid to enjoy toys that were designated for both boys and girls when I was growing up (I had plenty of Barbies, My Little Ponies, Hot Wheels, Lincoln Logs, Lego Building Sets *and not kits that are pre-designed to build only one thing*, Teenage Mutant Ninja Turtles, GI Joes, Thundercats, etc.), not every kid is like this. Some kids are very into what is designated as being for their gender. Of course, that speaks of the systemic nature of gendering kids through social and media interactions, but, we can’t really expect kids below a certain age to be able to accurately critically assess whether they like something purely because it makes them happy versus liking it because someone else told them it would make them happy (at least, not without a lot of parental guidance). As such, I don’t think toys should be as gendered as they are. Realistically, boys and girls should be allowed to purchase from one mass of toys, not sections that are color-coded for boys or girls. This doesn’t mean that I think pink should be abolished in any way, but, rather, that the options need to be broadened for all children so as not to make any kids feel ashamed for liking any certain thing over another.
Another way to think about it: If gender as we know it was so natural, if a binary naturally existed and males and females naturally gravitated towards specific likes and tasks, then, why would they try so damn hard to shove it down our throats on a daily basis???
Am I the only man who appreciates moody outbursts? Yes? Alright.
Dear Kotex: Here is but a fraction of the reason why women are “ashamed” of their periods. Society stigmatizes and medicalizes the menstruating women. Studies have shown that women are viewed as being less competent and less favored - by men and women - when they are menstruating. Throughout the reproductive years, women are told that their periods are abnormal and that suppressing them is the way to go*. Once they hit menopause, their lack of menstruation is stigmatized and labeled abnormal. Because god forbid women are allowed to experience naturally occurring biological events without society, the medical community, and the patriarchy getting all up in our business.
*I will say that there are plenty who benefit from menstrual suppression, such as those with Endometriosis, PCS, etc., but I disagree with the practice of recommending it to any menstruating women, especially adolescents who haven’t adjusted to their personal versions of normal.